Welcome to my blog, freshly brewed and bursting with ideas! As a newbie in the blogging sphere, I decided to dive in and share insights as part of my New Year's resolution. I'm a passionate counsellor and coach dedicated to guiding individuals toward positive life changes. I hope my posts serve as helpful tools on your journey, bringing your aspirations closer to reality! Let's start by exploring the intriguing world of change!
Change encompasses a myriad of facets of our lives—be it our physical, emotional, or mental well-being, our thinking patterns, or behaviours. It extends to both personal and professional realms. The spectrum is vast, but one thing remains certain: change is inevitable. The crux of successful and meaningful change lies in focusing on what truly matters to you!
Expressing your desire for something different, often stems from a place of feeling stuck. It marks the time for a meaningful shift toward a purpose-driven life. At times you might pinpoint exactly what you want to change—perhaps dissatisfaction with their job or a longing to allocate more time to personal interests. At these times it may be you are wanting guidance to navigate towards your desired destination. At other times you might feel a sense of stagnation without a clear understanding of what needs to change. It's at this juncture that exploration opens doors to profound and enduring transformations.
Ensuring Change is Sustainable
Comfort is pivotal in change, and research underscores the efficacy of making smaller, incremental changes for long-term benefits over attempting a complete overhaul all at once. Have you ever sought advice on improving your physical fitness only to be bombarded with suggestions like, joining a gym, attending 5.30 am classes, clearing out your wardrobe, cutting out sugar, fats, and alcohol? Wow!
If so, you've likely realised these drastic changes seldom stick! Here's the key: change should be attainable and enduring to yield meaningful, sustainable outcomes, fostering those uplifting vibes that drive habit formation. Dr. Gina Cleo from the Habit Change Institute advocates for creating a positive feedback loop. Aligning new habits with your interests and values is pivotal in ensuring their longevity.
Change Should Reflect your Motivations Not Anyone Elses
Understanding your priorities (not those of your Instagram followers) is fundamental to living purposefully and ensuring transformation. Change motivated by external factors tends to falter. Therefore, self-awareness becomes a cornerstone in preparing for change. It involves introspection—understanding your thoughts and behaviours to ensure they align with your values, aiding decision-making, a crucial aspect of the change process.
How to Overcome Obstacles When Making Changes
Awareness also comes in handy when negative self-talk infiltrates, undermining well-laid plans. Why do we persistently sabotage ourselves? Surprisingly, this negative pattern often originates in childhood, persisting into adulthood despite its irrelevance. Recognise that our thoughts, feelings, and behaviours are habitual, and change is the catalyst for breaking these cycles.
Hence, these ingrained thoughts, feelings, and behaviours demand patience, self-compassion, and practice to break free from their grip. Change is inevitable, whether chosen or imposed. If you opt for change, take action—it's the gateway to living a meaningful life, your best life!
Getting Support
In my practice, I merge counselling and coaching expertise to assist individuals in navigating life changes. Together, we decipher what's important and what needs to change. Curious to learn more? Drop me a message or, even better, schedule an appointment. Let's chat!
If you'd like to talk about making a change in your life, know that you're not alone. Change can be both exciting and scary, but it's an inevitable part of our journey in life. Whether we choose to make changes or they are forced upon us, learning how to navigate through them is crucial for personal growth and fulfilment.
It's important to understand that change is a process, not an event.
Reach out for an appointment and lets work through how we can navigate these changes together.
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